I have just found out that my child has been stealing lip gloss from stores. In shock?!?

She is a perfect little angel, and always makes the honour roll... I never thought she would do such a thing! I thought we gave her enough money. I don't know if she in insecure or something and I want to help.


Please help, give suggestions on punishments.


Thanks in advance.I have just found out that my child has been stealing lip gloss from stores. In shock?!?
Well, teenagers are teenagers! They just go through mood swings sometimes. I can see that she's been seen as ';the perfect little angel';.... maybe she just wants to break free of it! Just let her have some space!





...or spank herI have just found out that my child has been stealing lip gloss from stores. In shock?!?
Remember you are her Parent NOT her friend.





Back to the store


Pay for the item (from her money)


Apologize to the manager


Give the lip gloss away


Suspend Mall trips, Allowance %26amp; the use of make up for 1 month.





You might throw in a heartfelt story on how something you loved was stolen %26amp; how you HATE thieves %26amp; how it would just kill you if she EVER became one to THOSE people. (Yeah honey I know it's the mall and not your friends, but that's how it starts.)





Theft is an act of disrespect for others, not insecurity.





OR





You could do the denial thing %26amp; bemoan your Mothering skills.


Lot's of moms go with denial. ;-)
I work in a big store and it's horrible the way the teens act in public sometimes, stealing, running through the store causing havoc etc.I think it's alot of the wrong kinds of friends that they hang with at times.The hard part of raising kids is we don't know what they are capable of doing once they leave the home.They can really fool us.
Although very shocking it is not uncommon and is often a cry for help. I know of several cases where this happened and it turned out there was a crisis e.g. family breakup or something similar. That may not be the case here but something is bothering her.


You must sit down with her and be very firm about the consequences of continuing to do this...that she will end up in juv. ct and so on but also be understanding and try to get her to tell you if something is bothering her.


Try to impress on her how important it is to avoid being in situations where she might feel tempted.
I strongly suggest you make her go back to the stores and give an admission of guilt and offer to repay the manager by working it off. My brother had a habit like that when he was young. My mom used that tact with him and it nipped it in the bud. Or if that doesn't work have a police officer come and talk to her in a very intimidating way, best infront of her friends. Its rough but you have got to stop her. Tough Love.
Ask her if she needs anything and be willing to spend a little extra money. Help her return the stolen lipglosses and apologize to the store. Even if she didn't get caught, she eventually will, and the fine is much more costly than a $5 tube of gloss.
Most likely,she does this sort of thing to fit in with friends of hers,who are doing the same thing,and refuse to accept her if she stops doing it.





She probably realizes that it is wrong,but is caving under peer pressure.
The first time I was caught stealing by my mother she took me to the store and made me return the item and apologize to the owner for being a thief . Man that was one life lesson I never forgot...
Hey, I'm a security guard and unfortunately I deal with this stuff all the time, all I can recommend is don't let your kid go out without you anymore. sucks eh?
bring her back to the stores where she took it and make her tell the manager she took it and that she is sorry.
Take her back to the store to pay for the item %26amp; apologize.
I would make her take it back and tell them what she did. That useually works.
make her take the stuff back...she'll be stealing drugs and cars next